Your Last Single Summer
This could be your last single summer. Think about that. You could meet your person at any moment. You have no way of knowing when it will happen and if this summer will be your last without a partner. Think about if you would act differently if you knew this was your last single summer. If so, then you need to tap into that energy. Because while being in a relationship is great, it also changes things. It means you have someone else to think about and coordinate schedules with. It brings a different type of energy to your life. I had no idea I was going to meet my now partner this past Fall. But I look back on last summer and know that I treated it as if it was my last one solo.
How did I do that?
Say yes to everything - I went on boat days, travelled to Portugal, attended friend’s celebratory events and was just generally always making plans. Make this your summer of yes. Book the trips, make the plans, be out and about. Fill the summer with things that you are excited about and that push you out of your comfort zone. The summertime has so many fun activities you can do so take advantage of that.
Lean into solo Sunday’s - Being single has truly taught me how to love my alone time and when you are saying yes to everything, it can leave your social battery feeling a bit drained. So last summer I started doing solo Sunday’s where I would have “me” time. Everything from prepping for the week ahead to spending time at the pool with a good book to going to the movies alone. It was the perfect way to end the weekend and have some recharge time by myself.
Embrace new and old friends - Lean into your friendships this summer and make time for your people. Whether it’s cooking dinner together at home or having a girl’s night out. A lot of my friends had exciting celebrations last summer - baby showers, engagements. I showed up to their events and was genuinely excited for them and this new chapter. Showing up for the people you love is important. I also expanded my network of friends last summer by meeting new single girlfriends. This was a great way for me to meet people who were in a similar life stage as me.
Focus less on the future and more on the present - Instead of worrying about dating and finding my person, I immersed myself in the present. Yes I dated here and there but I was enjoying where I currently was in life and seeing who I met and where that took me. Of course dating can be a part of your last single summer but make sure it’s more about putting yourself out there and having fun rather than thinking about the future. Focus more on meeting people out, flirting and making this a great summer.
I want you to think about what energy you would bring if you knew that after this summer, you would meet your person. Then, bring that energy to the next few months. But the key here is to not just bring that energy into this summer, but bring it into every season of life. Because even if this isn’t your last single summer, why not make it an amazing one? Plus, who knows, maybe this Fall could be your last single Fall. It can happen at any moment. And you don’t want to waste this time sitting around waiting. Instead, take advantage of every opportunity that this stage of life can bring.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
