Loving Yourself
A lot of the advice out there is that you need to do “the work” in order to meet a partner. And while that’s true, the real truth is you will always be working on yourself. The work is never truly done - whether you are single or in a relationship. But if you are single, the best thing you can do is to learn how to love yourself. What does that mean exactly? Self love is appreciating yourself and prioritizing your own well-being and happiness. It means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self love is critical because it’s what will lead you to finding the right person.
So how will self love lead you to finding a partner?
You won’t accept being treated poorly - The way you let people treat you is a mirror for how you feel about yourself. If you love yourself, then you won’t put up with red flags, toxic behavior or the breadcrumbs. Because you love yourself too much to allow anyone to treat you in that way.
It allows you to set boundaries - Self love is about having respect for yourself and knowing your worth. When something or someone hurts you or does not serve you then you will be able to stand up for yourself and say no. And in some scenarios, walk away from that person forever. In dating, you need to set boundaries and say what you need. Self love gives you the confidence to do that even when it’s hard.
Feel worthy enough to find love - A lot of times we accept the bare minimum or someone that we know is not right because we don’t think we deserve better. But you are worthy of someone who gives you exactly what you deserve and who truly loves you. The sooner you believe that, the sooner you will stop putting up with the wrong people and start saying yes to the right people.
Loving yourself is not something you need to earn. You deserve to have self love no matter what. But sometimes we lose sight of that in order to gain it from someone else. And that is when we allow the wrong person in. Remember to keep showing up for yourself and keep choosing you because that is what will build your self love. And ultimately lead you to meeting the right person.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
