Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
The #1 reason you are feeling blocked in your dating life is because of limiting beliefs. But what are they exactly? These are beliefs about yourself and the world that feel true to you. They are created and based on personal opinions and your own lived experiences. Limiting beliefs are created in all areas of life but I see them the most when it comes to dating. Some of the more common examples are - I’m too old to meet someone, there are no good guys left, dating is too hard in X city and I’m too much or not good enough to find a partner. The examples with dating are truly endless and take on many forms.
In a lot of ways, these beliefs are protecting you. They are mentally preparing you for the potential path where you remain single and give you a reason why this might happen. They are also stopping you from being fully open enough to let someone in which shields you from getting hurt. But while these mental blocks are in some ways trying to help you, they are also keeping you small by holding you back. The reality is that limiting beliefs are just that, they are beliefs. They are not facts or universal truths. So you can’t allow these beliefs to get in the way of achieving what you want.
So how do you overcome a limiting belief?
Ask yourself, what if I'm wrong? You have the power to decide which thoughts you believe. So challenge yourself and ask what if this belief was not correct. Could it be possible that this is not true?
Ask yourself, how is this belief serving me? Yes this belief is trying to protect you but what is it ultimately preventing you from? Is it worth it to believe in this idea because what will you miss out on if you do?
Create alternative beliefs. Come up with ways in which you are wrong. How can you switch the narrative so that the opposite is true? For example, instead of “Guys think I’m too much”, change it to “The right person will love me for who I am”.
Test those alternative beliefs to see if they are true. Find expanders or real life examples that prove the alternative belief. You have to see it to believe it’s possible so look for that through your own experiences or other people’s.
It’s important to remember that limiting beliefs won’t ever go away. They will get triggered and pop up every once in a while. And while you can use exercises like the above to shift your mindset, these beliefs won’t be removed from your mind forever. But the goal is to be able to move through these negative thoughts faster so you don’t allow them to get in the way of achieving what you want in life.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
