Frustrated By Dating
There comes a time in everyone’s single life (usually multiple times), when you get so fed up with dating that you want to give up. This happens to pretty much every single person out there. And it makes sense. If nothing is working out or moving forward in your dating life, that;s when the negative thoughts start to creep in. Those thoughts are trying to convince you that it would be easier to give up and just stay single forever. It’s completely normal to have these feelings. But the reality is, you shouldn't give up if finding a partner is what you want. Just because something is hard or isn’t currently going the way you had hoped, doesn’t mean you should quit.
So what should you do if you’re frustrated by dating?
Tap into your why - Remember why you are dating. What is your goal for dating? Do you want a long term partner? Do you want to start a family with someone? Thinking about the reasons why you are dating will give you purpose behind it. This is what will fuel you to keep going. Because if these are your goals, then you certainly won’t achieve them by giving up. Take a step back and look at what you want for your future and then realize how dating will eventually get you there.
Take a break - Sometimes you truly just need to step away from dating and focus on yourself. This means fully deleting the apps and instead centering other parts of your life besides dating. This time away will allow you to come back to dating feeling ready and excited again. But the key here is to make sure you have a timeline for putting yourself out there. You don't want this break to become long term.
Keep dating - I know this might sound counter intuitive but sometimes the best thing you can do is to keep putting yourself out there. All it takes is one good date to remind you why this can be fun and worth it. Because if you do want to find a long term partner, it’s not going to happen by doing nothing about it. You will need to keep dating in order to find your person.
I know how hard and exhausting dating can be. And when you’re in the thick of it, sometimes it feels easier to give up. But think about a time when something was hard and you wanted to stop - a new job, a fitness goal, a new hobby. What would happen if every time things got hard, you just gave up on that thing all together. Life is going to throw challenges your way and you can’t just walk away every time. Because usually those are the things that are the most worth it when you do finally achieve them.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
