When To Move On
One of the hardest things to do when you’re in a relationship (or a situationship), is knowing when it’s time to move on. Whether it’s a healthy relationship or an unhealthy relationship, the decision can be really difficult. And it’s made even harder when you are in love with that person. We want so badly for this to work out because the thought of being single again and starting over is scary. But what’s worse - staying in a relationship that’s not right for you where you’re unhappy or being single and becoming happy again? When you look at it that way, the choice becomes much simpler. But the journey to make that decision can be hard and confusing. How do you know?
Here are 5 signs that it’s time to move on:
It’s a constant rollercoaster of emotions - One day you’re happy and hopeful, and then the next you're sad and unsure. One day you two are great, and then the next you’re fighting and in a bad place. When a relationship is a constant up and down of extreme emotions, that is a sign that this is no longer a healthy and stable relationship.
You’re feeling emotionally unfulfilled - Your emotional safety and happiness is critical in a relationship. Once you lose that, it’s hard to come back from. If nothing is giving you joy and you’re not feeling content on a daily basis, this is a sign. The right relationship will make you feel emotionally fulfilled, satisfied and happy.
You’re trying to convince yourself - Are you always making excuses in your head that these feelings of doubt are normal and everyone feels this way? Are you looking at other unhealthy relationships in order to make yourself feel better? If you are holding on to anything that convinces you that this is common, then you are trying to normalize it and convince yourself that it’s ok to stay. When in reality, this is a sign to move on.
There’s an imbalance - In order for a relationship to work, both people need to be in it together and want to make it work. If it feels like only one of you is trying to improve the relationship, then it’s not worth trying to save. It’s going to be an uphill battle that you can’t win without the help and support from your partner.
With time - It’s hard to come to the conclusion that you need to end a relationship. So it may take time to get there. Everyone is different and goes on a different journey with this. But there will come a day where you intuitively know that it’s time to move on.
It’s really hard to know when to move forward, especially with a long term relationship. Because the idea of ending a partnership with someone you truly love can feel impossible. But two things can be true at once - you can be in love with someone and still know that they are not the right person for you. And just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you should be unhappy in the relationship. Even if it’s a “healthy” relationship, that still doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the right one for you. Your gut is telling you the answer, now you just have to listen to it. Because by letting that person go and moving forward, you are allowing space for the right person to come in.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
