Rejection Is A Redirection
Everyone’s biggest fear - rejection. Here’s the reality, getting rejected is a normal part of dating and something that everyone goes through at some point. That reality doesn’t necessarily make it any better because no matter how you look at it, getting rejected sucks. There are so many feelings around rejection - not being good enough, questioning your self worth, the unanswered what if’s and the end of a potential future you created in your mind. But here’s the truth, the best and only way to look at rejection is as a redirection.
What does “rejection is a redirection” even mean? At the end of the day, you want someone who wants you back. So if this person doesn’t want to be with you then they are doing you a favor by letting you go. Something better is right around the corner. But, they had to let you go and free up that space in your life in order for you to be open for the right person. The universe is always working for you, not against you. So everything that is happening is leading you where you need to go aka closer to your person.
Here are few other reminders that will help your mindset when going through a rejection:
Don’t base your value on what someone else is looking for. Think about when the roles were reversed and you rejected someone. In most of those situations, there was nothing wrong with that person, you just knew it wasn’t your person. Yes, you liked them and genuinely enjoyed their company but again, you just knew that wasn’t who you were meant to be with. Remember that just because you don’t align with who this person’s ideal partner is, doesn’t devalue you and your worth.
Don’t you think your soulmate would want to date you? This is always such a mic drop. At the end of the day, you don’t want what’s not for you. And you can’t lose anything that was not meant for you. The right person will choose you so the person that doesn’t, can’t be your person.
Just trust me, you’ll be fine. Remind yourself that when you have been rejected in the past, everything was okay. And this time will be no different. You will move forward and find a new connection just like you did the last time. You will get through this, I promise!
I also want to acknowledge that you are allowed to be in your feelings after getting rejected. Two things can be true at once - this sucks and you will be okay because clearly this person was not meant for you. Give yourself time and grace to heal and to move forward. Make sure to be selfish and do things for yourself that will make you feel good. Feel your feelings and acknowledge what is coming up for you. It won’t do you any good to ignore them and act like everything is fine. I know I talk a lot about enjoying your single life and having a positive mindset. But you’re human, so you have every right to feel down after a rejection. Just don’t forget - this rejection is a redirection.
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The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
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