Feeling Down About Being Single
I have to be honest about something…. I have been feeling really down about being single lately.
Something I talk a lot about on my social media and with my clients is about embracing being single and learning to enjoy the life you’ve built for yourself whether you have a partner or not. So it’s hard to admit that I am going through a time where this is not necessarily the case. But what I’ve realized through my years of being single and through my coaching, is that the downs are all part of the journey. Because not every moment in your single life (or your life in a relationship for that matter) will always be positive. It’s going to have its low moments. And it’s about how you handle those moments and choose to move through them that matter.
I think for me, I realize that this is a moment in time. These feelings have stemmed from leaning into being a homebody the past month and spending a lot of more moments alone. Those moments alone have been extremely nourishing and what I needed but it also gave me a lot of room to think and feel. So the deeper realization that I am longing for a partner and that is truly something I desire, came through in those moments alone. And it’s something I’ve felt and wanted for awhile, but felt much stronger during this time.
If I also look even more internally and challenge why I am feeling this way, I realize it’s coming from not currently dating and not having someone I’m excited about. January was a very quiet dating month and that’s something I’ve heard across the board from clients and friends. People wanted to detox and reset after the holidays so socializing and dating took a back seat for a month. And while it’s normal to have quieter moments in my dating life, it’s important for me to take a look at why that has affected me so much.
In those low moments, take the time to look internally. Dig deep into why these emotions are coming up. Where are they stemming from? And how can you face them and move forward? For me, it looks like continuing to honor the down time that I know my body wants and needs while also making sure I am doing things for myself that make me feel good.
Specifically, I am making sure to keep doing the daily habits that allow me to feel happy and grounded. Working out, going for walks outside, spending time with friends, cooking healthy meals and me time on the couch reading a book or watching TV (shout out to Love Island). It’s also about making the effort to move my dating life forward by being on the apps and reengaging socially. If you don’t know what this list is for you, I recommend finding the time to sit down and write it out. It’s something you can come back to during any of your down moments.
At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that nothing is permanent. Which means that these moments are just temporary. And what comes from the down is an up. It’s the ebb and flow of life. Before you know it, you will be at a high that feels so much sweeter because you have overcome the lows.
Interested in working with me as a coach? Here are a few ways to work with me!
The Dating Blueprint - a 3-month 1:1 coaching program designed specifically for the motivated woman who is ready to work from the inside out to embrace being single, enjoy the experience of dating, and make time to date with intention so they can find a long-term partner with the qualities and values they are looking for.
The Dating Blueprint Community - a safe space with weekly live trainings, consistent support from me as a coach and a public forum to ask for advice and to discuss dating with other single women going through the same ups and downs of dating and being single.
Attachment Theory Decoded - an in depth look at attachment theory with an assessment that unlocks your unique attachment style and a 1:1 coaching session for a full debrief on your results and how they affect your dating life.
The 6 Pillars to Creating a Dating Life You Love and Attracting Your Ideal Partner - a FREE guide that takes you through steps needed to face your fears and tackle your limiting beliefs head on so you can embrace being single and look at each dating experience as a fun and expansive opportunity.
Free Flow Coaching - If my program options aren’t for you but you are interested in working together, then let’s chat about a more free flow 1:1 coaching option. I offer three or six month packages.
